Holding On

Holding on :

Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.” – Anonymous

“It's weird...you know the end of something great is coming, but you want to hold on, just for one more second...just so it can hurt a little more.” - Anoymous

Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. The older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.”  - Mary Schmich

Letting go isn’t easier, but holding on even harder, said the Blonde actress to her husband whom she still loved, while divorcing in Amrtisar to LA. And it touched me then and there. Those who love and loved truly ,those who felt and felt deeply, those who  trusted and trusted completely , also know one thing to do. And they do it because the know it needs to be done. And that is to hold on. 

To hold on a bleeding person in the arms in ambulance after an accident. To hold on the eyes on the screen of incubator of Neo natal care of the preemie. To hold on the last strand of energy in the aching muscle of a lone traveler. To keep staring at the drive way when the date is already an hour late.

The free gift that comes with holding on is the risk of being proved wrong. It depends on us if we want to take the risk. But very few people are able to evaluate the temporary gain they may receive by eliminating the risk vis a vis the lifelong loss that may occur if they don’t.  A healthy child, a surviving partner, a virgin natural spot, a smile on the face to see the person actually waited are few of the gains that come from holding on.

Above all, at times we hold on not because we want to, but because we don’t want the other person to regret later on, of not finding us where the person left us. Of giving in to his temporary madness of wanting to move away, push us away. We hold on not because we have too much faith in ourselves, but because we don’t want the other person to be proven wrong for his faith in us.

But then sometimes all we are left with is only ourselves and our wait, our foolish optimism. So how we do evaluate how much is too much? How do we know how long to continue holding on?  The answer lies within us. When we look inside with closed eyes towards the world but open eyes of the heart, we would be able to listen the answer. Of all the purity of acts that we put in, the deepest of emotions we nurtured it with and the single mindedly passion for it, our heart will tell us to hold on.

And holding on doesn’t mean to do the same things in the same manner. Infact the forms may change, but the intention remains the same with un-flickering faith. Above all it leaves us not with self doubt but with confidence. Not restlessness but with peace within. Not insecurity but surety 

within.

 Afterall holding on is not about self. It is about believing twice the amount you used to, in absence of the other, because the other is struggling with their faith for timebeing. So hold on so  that things can be back the way they were or even better after some time.