Hurt

Hurt :

“There is a thin line that separates laughter and pain, comedy and tragedy, humor and hurt. “ - Erma Bombeck

“Two things scare me. The first is getting hurt. But that's not nearly as scary as the second, which is losing. “ - Lance Armstrong

In this single lifetime of ours, chances are that some of us may come across people who have never loved. There will also be few of them who have loved and were never loved back. But among all of us who exist, there will be not a single person who is never hurt.

Hurt, in any shade of it, with any intensity of it, with any impact of it. Somewhere somehow sometimes, the only thing that binds all is this one shade of emotion - Hurt. And the only feeling that separates us all are also the various shades of this Hurt.

A hurt lover, a hurt parent, a hurt child, a hurt employee, a hurt friend, a hurt neighbor. Infact this is the only emotion with which we can even affect a stranger. Guaranteed.

This is also the only emotion for which we cannot decide the intensity of giving but somehow are aware of the intensity of the reaction of receiver. And yet we choose to act otherwise at times.

So how do we handle this most common of feeling with such myriad hues? Who decides how the receiver is supposed to feel, handle this? When the giver is not sure of the intensity of giving this, then how can the giver ensure that it is not misinterpreted?

I believe the only person who can be the best judge of the how the receiver should react towards hurt is the receiver himself. Incase of love, we love the person not the way the person understands love , but the way we know how to love. The receiver is supposed to understand our forms of expression and acknowledge and react accordingly. So goes with happiness. I would know to make someone else happy only by the ways and things that make me happy too.

But it’s not the case with Hurt. You may get hurt with a statement that other person finds funny. You may not get hurt by something but it may bring tears in eyes of other person. Hence it seems even more discomforting when other person asks how you can be hurt by such a simple statement or action. What the person fails to understand that a prick of pin makes a baby cry and a cut of knife won’t even make a man cringe.

Hence when dealing with hurt, the receiver only has the right to decide what hurts him and what doesn’t. And in case you still love the other person you will not do something that hurts the other person but doesn’t hurts you.

Because how much a shoe pinches, only the wearer decides.